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practicing yoga off the mat.
Writer and poet Rumi said, “you are not a drop in the ocean. You are an entire ocean in a drop.” Often, we feel as though we are so different from another person, but as Rumi stated, we are all interconnected. We are all related and share more experiences than we realize. Beginning with love helps us connect to others in a way talk will never reach.
Loving others, especially the difficult ones that don’t seem to agree with our views, is not an easy task. Bob Goff, author of Everybody Always, encourages us open our hearts and love freely with everyone. He offers several ways we can reconnect to others.
One of his first lessons is understanding other people do not wish to be “talked” too. They don’t need to hear your advice on everything they should be doing. They simply want to be seen and heard. They want to be with you. Be their friend and listen with your whole heart and let it speak rather than your lips.
When a friend is dealing with a struggle such as a family or job loss, most of us rush to help initially. Over time, we disappear and so does the support system this friend still needs. She may fall again, lose another job or forget how to love, and that’s when Goff says we really need to be there – to help, to hold, to love.
Are you scared to love? To open up fully? What could happen? We could get hurt. We could get rejected. But what happens if we love fully, and we change not only ourselves, but the ones that come in contact with us.
The people that come into and out of our lives are teachers even the ones we are loving and helping. Take the time to listen and learn from them. Their knowledge is a gift we’ve likely asked for.